It’s a day away from May–and I’m thinking Spring! When you garden, you are thinking about your seeds much earlier than the ground will allow you to begin. But it’s also time to think about how and what we harvest. Sometimes we nurture a negative root system by tenaciously hang on to a pain or an idea long after its origin or initial impact. Something someone said or did can become an unforgiven seed. What seeds are we planting? Do we plant positive affirmations every day, or do they sound like, “Oh, this back ache is killing me,” “I’ll never loose weight.” “This job is going to be the death of me.” “This project is a pain in the neck.” The ideas you plant determine the health you reap!
Other times we hang onto something for fear of loosing it, for fear that something better won’t come along, for fear that we don’t deserve better, or for fear that we can’t attain something again that was lost. Sometimes we clutch onto some idea because it falsely offers a sense of security. Fear is another root system that we need to dig up and discard like a weed. It doesn’t serve us.
Having a huge garden that backed up to a state forest, we competed with rabbit, deer and raccoons for our produce. One summer we followed the sage advice of Rodale Press by burying 10 inches of the floppy mesh fence into the soil, decorating it with aluminum pie tins, then sprinkling moth balls around the parameter. We left a radio and flashlights on as the corn was nearly ready to harvest, yet the four-legged consumers got all but one-half ear of corn!
There are two kinds of fences we use: one to maintain our rightful boundaries, and the one we put up to keep others away. Some might visualize their emotional self surrounded by a fence that has been trampled down and stepped over. We can feel like friends, family or co-workers have just over run our life and trampled all over our emotional property, depleting us of energy or enthusiasm. Did we let them? If we don’t occasionally say NO, are we extending the opportunity for them to get away with it—knowing they won’t be met with resistance because we don’t have established boundaries? You can be nice and still not be a rug to be walked over. What are your needs? What do you need respected about your life, your relationships, and your emotions?
What about the fence we build to keep others out? My heart was fenced with a brick wall after my divorce. How can friendships or a new relationship ever occur if a heart is framed with bricks to prevent getting hurt again? If we maintain an attitude of anger and bitterness, illness is sure to be the crop we harvest. If we maintain a shelter, and fail to trust again, we risk loosing opportunities to meet people who will nurture and care about us. Most of the affirmations that Louise Hay uses for healing include words about love, trust and feeling safe.
If you close your eyes and picture yourself as a garden, are you growing, or is your growth stagnant? Are you thriving, or is your environment toxic and harmful to your growth? Are you blooming and radiant, or do you need nurturing? Do you know what your needs are? Are you asking for what you need? Do you have healthy boundaries? What changes will make your garden grow? It’s only April, but the changes you make today can afford you a life-time of better thriving.