February 2014 Newsletter-The Price of Minimizing Grief and Trauma-Part 2

“The power of our beliefs can work in either direction to become life affirming or life denying.” states Gregg Braden. Examining our stories, our symptoms, and the grief and traumas of our past can be a place in our mind too well traveled—but seldom resolved.

Eckhart Tolle, author of The Power Of Now, writes, “As long as you make an identity for yourself out of the pain, you cannot become free of it. As long as part of your sense of self is invested in your emotional pain, you will unconsciously resist or sabotage every attempt that you make to heal that pain.”

When we succumb to the victim mentality, we are not in a place of living from our power which enables us to restore our life, our health, our vitality, or to maintain healthy relationships. When we are merely existing—functioning from a place void of joy and positive emotions—we are not living from a place of alignment with our soul-self.

The author of Loving What Is, Byron Katie, believes that we suffer when we believe a thought which argues with what is. “No one wants…to be in a car accident; but when these things happen, how can it be helpful to mentally argue with them? We know better than to do that, yet we do it, because we don’t know how to stop.” Katie says, “It hurts when I argue with reality. We don’t feel natural or balanced. When we stop opposing reality, action becomes simple, fluid, kind, and fearless.”

Tolle tells us, “You cannot find yourself by going into the past. The future will not free you of your past.” With practice, we can catch ourselves when our thoughts carry us back, but we would benefit to relate to the past only when doing so is “absolutely relevant to the present”. When you can recall something but can suspend being critical or judgmental, then you are diminishing the attention it draws by putting your power instead into now, this moment, this present moment.

Don’t let your past hold you back from living.

Some techniques to deal with grief, trauma or releasing include “The Work” by Byron Katie, Emotional Freedom Technique, Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing, Hypnosis, Guided Somatic Exercises, and Grief Recovery Counseling